Why in the world the more tired I get, the more energy he seems to have. I have hidden my keys from him, so I know he didn’t sneak out for an espresso at the Starbucks or anything like that, but I AM suspicious that something is amiss. He just never seems to want to go down!

Oh yes, the picture is a few months old although I WISH it were tonight. Mr. Incredible would be A LOT more incredible if he slept more in my mind, but what I do not understand is with his mom walking around here like a zombie (she is beat too) why she doesn’t entice him to fall asleep in our room, which he will…..as long as he knows she will be there. He loves me, but he would clearly throw me under a bus for her, which gives me more free time when both of us are here, but often makes me nervous in that they could suddenly afford that month-long Disney vacation if something were to “accidentally” happen to me! I however am the only one to drive them both while they sleep, so as long as I have some value I suppose I will be around a while.

Tonight however he is watching “Shrek” while I do some work. Amanda is “switching out” his summer and winter stuff, which is a hard concept for a guy like me who has 3 pairs of jeans, some sport shorts, clergy-ware (all black) and t-shirts. My whole wardrobe can be split into work and other and then just pants and shirts. Seasons do not matter, my wardrobe is year round and valued at maybe 100.00, including the shoes!

So from the dining room I now pray that I will walk into the other room and find him asleep on the floor…..I know, fat chance. But I will pray nonetheless. I know that one day he will LOVE to sleep, and then it will be his turn. My grandkids will be his problem then, and since they will not live with me, my prayer is that they will never sleep! As my mom always said, what goes around comes around!!

Goodnight and God Bless my friends! I hope and pray you had a blessed Sunday!

Tommy+

Yep, it’s a twist on the Disney ride “Disaster Transport,” though I am told it no longer exists. But of course that is how I feel……I am utterly exhausted from the long day away out of town for lacrosse. The good part is that we won a couple of games. The bad part is that I am about 20 years too old to be doing this much in a day.

Fortunately for me, though the day began at 5am, we were bale to arrive home at around 4 and I was going to be able to take a nap. When one is that tired though, it is far easier to take the toddler with you, which we did, but her slept in the car so he was NOT tired. So after about an hour of him hounding us, I finally got back up and abandoned all hope for a nap. I just was wishing at that point he was 16. Teenagers WILL sleep, and really do not have a whole lot of interest in keeping you up, after all, you can ground them. So Ben won this round……but not the title!

It is now however approaching midnight and ironically, he is asleep IN MY BED and SNORING. What a little snake! It doesn’t take away how tired I feel, but there is just something about this little guy’s MO that is amazingly unfair. He is either a genius or just quite lucky. I will pray for genius….I may be needing him to take care of me someday!

Anyway, we won both games today, and now after 150 more things and no sleep, I am prepared for the day tomorrow and ready for bed. I won’t disturb him….just pray for him to keep snoring all though the night. I have no interest in negotiating with anyone at this point who does not want to sleep!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless!

Tommy+

Yes, with new Spiderman shoes, and a Spiderman shirt, Ben went out today to fly his new Spiderman kite. He broke his Buzz Lightyear inflatable kite, but we did get our dollar’s worth. And the nice thing about kids’ kites are that they are cheap. We now have the new Spidey kite with two additional backups and are out just $3.00!

It is SO WORTH IT though. He cannot get the kite airborne by himself, but once it is up he thinks he is the real deal just holding the string. Sadly he is infected by a bit of “kite-incompetence” because every time it starts to stall out and come down he rushes towards it, which of course is the exact opposite of what he should do. So someone always has to run towards him to grab the string to help, of course causing him to run toward it all the more.

The real blessing though is the joy of a 34 month-old child while flying a kite. He smiles and laughs, and tells us every moment just where his kite is……up about 50 feet right over his head. I think we could learn a lot from him. Our world would be a much different place if we were as happy about such a simple pleasure as to just fly a kite.

Goodnight my friends and God Bless!

Tommy+

Tonight, at a very later hour (9pm), we were finally able to get together to celebrate the anniversary of my stroke. It is a birthday of sorts, and I am blessed that it didn’t happen on my birthday (sorry Brad) because I get to have TWO celebrations a year! AND…..tonight we all went to my favorite restaurant Charleston’s were we had a nice dinner, a couple of “Perfect Margaritas,” and where Ben put on a show. It was quite a time.

Of course I do not consider these days real birthdays or reasons to celebrate, as much as I consider each day a blessing. I am the oldest of five, with just three of us living, and watching our two sisters die from cancer, I know what a blessing and gift each day is. In the late 1980’s while living in Florida, my doctors thought I had liver cancer, and it allowed me to examine my whole life. And believe me, when you suddenly can’t think straight, spell, talk right, or control your emotions when not remembering the event itself AT ALL, you count your blessings for every minute. I am truly a fortunate man.

Ironically, I had not ever even had a margarita till 2004. My sister Sarah loved them, and she and my mom would go out for Mexican food and have one together. I had my first when she was first diagnosed with cancer, and I cannot have one at all without thinking of the two of them. So….as we raised our glasses tonight and toasted, I was thinking of them, and though I miss them, am pleased to know that the Lord has chosen to have the three of us not toast in person….yet.

I still have a lot to do, and I am glad for the opportunity to do. My life is filled with many blessings, and tonight I am thankful for them all.

Goodnight my friends and God Bless.

Tommy+

Two years ago today, I was at home watching Ben and on the telephone with Amanda, when I had a stroke. I have no recollection of the event, I had no pain, and in my mind (which was what was damaged) I even had no discernible symptoms. Ben and I were just hanging out as neighbors began banging on the door and a bunch of firemen showed up.

It is funny to me how something I do not remember has changed my life so much. Sure I remember the days in the hospital, the “mystical camel of healing” that Steph and Scott got me as a joke that I still have, and of course the “stroke patient” key chain they got me that I still use, but on which the words have been long worn off. I also remember the blessings of my staff, family, friends and other coaches who really stepped up and were there for us.

What I do not want to focus on are the things I do not remember, the effects on my memory or the things that pop up from time to time. I worked hard to get by things, and often still do. This blog in fact was a big part of my rehab. I had started it a few month prior to the stroke, and it was to be about something completely different…but since I was struggling with reading and writing at the time, it became a daily therapy which I obviously still practice to this day.

The real blessing of this day is that now when I act crazy or forget something I can blame it on a medical excuse…..a blessing indeed! But in truth, I am thankful it actually happened, and I really mean that. It changed me, and though I sometimes still struggle, it has all been for the better.

So happy anniversary to me! I am blessed that we can all be a part of it too. Every day is a gift from God, and I know that today, perhaps more than anyone.

God Bless you!

Tommy+

My daughter Stephanie has a group of friends, many of whom play lacrosse, who Amanda and I have had the pleasure to get to know. They are over a lot, they never knock or are expected to, and they are some of the finest young women I have ever known. BUT in all honesty, all of them need to be in rehab, not for anything like drinking or drugs, but for the bizarre addiction they all have for making cakes.

I really do not know why it started, nor do I understand it. I know initially Amanda was involved, but they have really worked hard to muscle her out. The cakes they make are quite creative AND TASTY, but it is funny that it doesn’t matter if there are five of them or two of them, they seem to love it. Another year from now they will all be in different places, but I expect when they are home to see them here, even if Steph is not home, baking cakes so I can screw up my diet.

Tonight it is Steph and Katie. They are both remarkable lacrosse players, and are doing homework in between cooking (also quite normal FOR THEM). I will miss this weirdness next year I am sure. But for now I am loving it. Amanda, if she were here, would be loving it too. Lord knows what kind of cake is on its way…..I only know it will be good!

Goodnight and God Bless from the home of the Cake Bosses!
Tommy+

Well, the four of us have survived school, work, lacrosse practices, a babysitter, and two girls lacrosse games, which I am happy to report we won. The odd part is that from the sidelines I could not hear her yelling (she calls it cheering), but that is probably because she is in England for work till late Wednesday night.

Now that I am thinking about the day, I am realizing how very I tired I am and should be! I went to bed after midnight and was up at 3:30. I had her delivered to the airport and was home before the kids had to go to school. I have been going ever since too…….suddenly I am feeling tired!

At least I have the satisfaction of knowing it is later there….five hours later to be exact! Of course knowing Amanda she probably slept on the plane and anywhere else she could. AND, I am sure she has been asleep in her hotel for hours.

So for now we will just celebrate her arrival in England and the the survival of a busy day. I just hope we can have a lot less to do….beginning with tomorrow morning!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Just as we were getting into the swing of things, as quick as she arrived she was packing to leave. Yep, Amanda and Stephanie got home, played with Ben, and then Stephanie was off to work this afternoon and evening at CVS, and Amanda is packed and ready to leave for the airport at 4am to fly to England for work. It seems as if we have all hardly even talked, and now it will be just like next week, except of course for Steph, who we actually suspect is being left to rat us out if we do anything bad. But for 24 hours at least we were all in one place, and all under one roof. It was good while it lasted!

Tomorrow I will have Amanda dropped off and will have returned home before the kids even leave for school. And we (the kids and I) will have a whirlwind couple of days before picking her up again at midnight on Wednesday night. Our life is often like that, and I suppose we might not know how to handle it if it were sedentary.

But for now I need to call it a night. Tomorrow morning is getting closer with every minute, and I want to make sure I have the energy to make it through the entire day.

Goodnight my friends and God Bless!

Tommy+

Yep, Amanda and Stephanie arrived home this afternoon to the awaiting arms of a very happy Ben. I am sure, not as a reflection of what he sees in our character, but from them being away so long, that we had probably sold them to gypsies. But alas, they walked in the door and his world was right once again.

I will say it has been a long week and will be a long day tomorrow, so this is as long as this post will be tonight. Tomorrow will be shortened too with Amanda’s flight to England leaving at 6 in the morning.

So goodnight my friends and God Bless. I hope you had a great day!

Tommy+

Tonight, for our last “boy’s night out” before the girls get home, we decided to either go ice skating again or take Ben to his first real movie……..we decided upon the latter. Not much for kids was playing, so our best bet was the new picture called “How to Train Your Dragon.”

I RARELY go to movies, and only a couple of times before with a toddler, because toddlers in my experience are often like Notre Dame football…..you never know what you are going to get on any given day. What made Scott and I quite pleased that out of the roughly 90 or so people in the theater, about a third were young kids. This really did look to be a win for both of us!

And if you read this blog at all, you know that I am not just a coach and former athlete, but that I have a highly competitive spirit……I like to come in #1. But coming in #1 for the most disruptive toddler was a trophy neither Scott or I intended to, or was trying to, win. Ben however apparently was….and did, not in a real bad way, it was just stressful to me. In the end though it was a success, and the dragon AND Ben all fared well.

Tomorrow will be filled with lacrosse and the preparation of the arrival of the ladies. Not that it will matter that Scott and I are here. Women still apparently like the bad boys, the James Dean types, the rebels…..you know, the ones that fight you for your soda and popcorn in the crowded movie theater.

Goodnight my friends and God Bless.

Tommy+