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My teeth are so white I gotta wear shades…….

I generally write these in the evening, or if we are being technically correct, at “night.” But tonight Scotty and I will be traveling to Missouri again, this time to visit St. Louis Christian College. He has been accepted there and he wants to see it in person before making any commitments.

But of course I will not be able to type and drive (at least not that well….or legally) so I guess there IS a blessing to being trapped here at the Toyota dealership this morning. My 1.5 hour visit is now just over 3, and the first 1.5 I filled up with a meeting at the IHOP with PT across the street.
But the good news is that it allows me to write up this blog entry, and I am excited about it too. It will post “automatically” by itself later tonight. So as you can see, Captain Spectacular made his first trip to the TEETH DOCTOR (aka. “dentist”) this morning, and Amanda sent me this picture. He is truly too cool for words, and if you do not believe me, just ask him.
The bad news is that his days of apple juice, as well as strawberry and chocolate milk, are now to be greatly limited. It is not due to any problems, but due to the potential of them. It is, quite honestly, the same reason I stay away from alligators.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Shake, rattle, and roll…..

Today Ben and Amanda went with me up to Christ the King in Kokomo for services. It is sort of a rarity for us, but one that we welcomed. And Amanda and I spent the majority of the service signaling each other as to what to do about Ben who was as we say “chatty” through the entire service.

Of course Steph and Scott do not have such problems. They behave, but more than that, they have been trained that if eye contact is made with me and it is not pleasant eye contact, they need to change course and quickly. I hate the stereotype of misbehaving clergy kids and we do our best to not fall into that. Of course we didn’t do too good of job of that today.
Ben is of course Ben, and as the youngest, he reaps the benefits of the other two figuring us out. The other two are no help either, choosing to laugh it up at our struggle. Dear Lord, it is almost as if they are GRANDPARENTS, but they are really siblings. It is truly a conspiracy of the deepest level.
But the good news is that we survived…..and o the way home we hit the Dairy Queen. Ben is a big fan of the chocolate shake, and although he was a pest in church, he was pretty great beyond that. Training him is going to take patience and some sort of MAJOR miracle, but we are “all in.” It has been trying, but the shake made it worthwhile. I am just glad to survive the day!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Walking the hard road……

I have started this blog two or three different times tonight, and have erased it completely every time. I have done this with intention too. My job is so very often filled with joy and wonder, yet at other times it is difficult. Everyone wants to be liked, and there is a great temptation to often do the thing that creates the least amount of waves in order to maintain peace or popularity. It however often is not the right thing to do.

Thus the reason behind this funk I am in tonight. I only wish it would go away. In all honesty it eats away at my spirit, and really takes me away from being totally present with my family, and that troubles me very much.
Many people carry things into their private lives that should be checked at the door, and I am no different. I really do just want the best for people, and truly my heart and my intentions are in the right place. Of course they say that road to hell is paved with good intentions, but I am rally invested in what I do and who I am, and I do it for the right reasons. But one of the downfalls of my vocation is that people often only believe it when you are doing what they want you to.
But sometimes convictions make one’s life a lonely place. (For the convict AND for priests set on the right road) I have been there before and I will be there again, but just because you have been there doesn’t mean that it needs to please you….it doesn’t me.
So no wit (other than the awesome convict joke) and no bunnies and flowers. Life is a journey, and sometimes the terrain we travel is rough. But I am faithful and up to the task. I may not like it, but I am moving ahead.
God be with me as I walk this road.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

A water-logged apology……

I heard from Steph about my post yesterday….perhaps I was a bit hard on her. That sandwich we found in her car was actually not hers. She knew it, and so did I. And my attempt to be witty inadvertently, and most improperly, incriminated her. For that I apologize. But to Scott, no way…..his girlfriend bemoaned that car’s condition today at practice again.

Of course it was difficult to hear her over the monsoon. It rained today through our entire practice and we were all quite wet. But I was impressed. The sheer toughness of these young women is amazing. Quite a few were out sick, but one of them who was hurt and unable to dress for practice actually came out and stood with the coaches in the rain. Opponents beware…..these girls are not afraid to get their hair wet……or apparently anything else. They were soaked.
In all honesty though, days like today are just part of it. We play in anything but lightening, and to be prepared for everything we practice in everything. We had a rainy day in the 50’s today, we have had the snow and sleet and 30’s already too. But I think we are all looking forward to it being so hot we cannot stand it…..it will get there by season’s end.
I have to confess however, I was happy to get to the end of practice. Though I was still wet, the lack of rain in my car and the heater were pretty wonderful.
Tomorrow I lead a Confirmation Class and it is going to be both inside and dry…..two things I believe I will really enjoy!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Parental joy!

I had the opportunity to drive in both my kid’s cars tonight. Stephanie’s car is here in Indiana while she is at school and Amanda has been driving it while her car is in the repair shop. It will be done tomorrow. And Scotty drove me for a little bit tonight in his car…..they are both sending me to an early grave.

Tonight, after Steph’s lights went out when I was switching them from low beam to high beam, the only light illuminating the dash being the check engine light, I immediately came home, got on E-Bay, and order some parts. She will insist the car is fine and that she knows how to work it…..I will just pray that my grandkids get a better dose of my genetic pool. I am fixing that car.
Scotty’s car is something else. His girlfriend is actually a lacrosse player, a Junior, who I have had on my team her whole high school career. At practice today she asked me if we could talk, and when I asked her what about, she asked, “Could you please have Scotty clean out his car?” I thought she was joking and laughed it off……..she was not. She doesn’t have a boyfriend, she has a project! But I will leave that to him.
In truth, he is really better than Steph in that regard, as hard as it is to believe by looking at his car, but we have found FOOD in her’s. Well it used to be food, we think. She had a half-eaten sandwich in the storage compartment between her seats. Some parents are disturbed to find things like drugs and alcohol, but what was growing on that former sandwich could have been used as a weapon. Thank God the Hazmat Team was available. The car is now not a hazard, except for the lights.
So I have been riding them about their cars, but at least they both have the courtesy to lie and say they will take care of it. They make me feel better because they are not nearly as truthful as their young 3 year old brother. I told him I wanted him to shape up last night and he just looked me in the eye and told me he was going to “throw me away.”
The joys of being a parent!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Blessings…….

Sometimes blessings come in disguises, and to be honest, the flood of 2011 has been one of them. The basement looks great sans the carpet. The carpet is now in the temporary dumpster in driveway….AND, the fact that we have a dumpster for a few days means we can get rid of a lot of the stuff we needed to get rid of but didn’t before the move. I will be doing that now for the next few days. I can only hope I do not end up in there next….since Amanda asked for it to stay for awhile.

But life is just flying along. I had the great privilege to see Scotty open his first college acceptance letter today before lacrosse practice. It was pretty cool. (It is SCOTTY in tonight’s picture too, not Ben…..but you can tell they are brothers) We have yet to visit there, but will within the next couple of weeks. It was a wonderful experience to see his face light up though. It made me very proud. We will hopefully visit there next week. It is high on his list, but of course we have not heard from any colleges yet to this point about the possibility of playing lacrosse…..we will see.

I will however cut this short, which may not be a blessing to regular readers, but maybe we should reframe it.

Just imagine this is a sermon….and in almost 25 years of delivering sermons I have not ever had one complaint of cutting what I have said a bit short!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless!

Tommy+

In da studio…..

Oh yeah baby….I wish it were a workout studio, because if it were I might be in better shape, but in fact it is filled with MUSIC equipment that I haven’t a clue how to use. So the picture is of Ben on the treadmill I rarely see and the video which I could not get to post was of he and Scott singing Twinkle Twinkle….okay mostly Ben singing it (and poorly), because I think Scott knows all the words.

But the great part is that the basement is back in use after just two days of being down. Of course our driveway’s portico is filled with wet carpet awaiting the dumpster that I ordered today. And that dumpster will see that carpet and quite a few other things too. I just cannot wait for it to get here. Amanda however has said that I cannot throw her in there, and I checked that out with Bishop Loomis too….apparently it is not okay.
But for now I will be happy with what I have, and to this point I will describe it as “progress.” The flood has put me days behind, but I do not care. As long as I am making progress I should be happy.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

A hidden treasure makes a bad day great……

First of all, let me say it was not our house…..it was INDIANA. Ark jokes were flying as more rain fell here in just one night than had fallen since I had been a boy cumulatively! I woke up at 2:30 to see a LAKE in my front yard, and no I do not mean a stream, but a LAKE. Our driveway has a bridge over a drainage and the bridge was almost underwater, and the park next door was completely submerged.

Of course all this led me to look in the basement, since the house was built in 1936 and has no sump pump. The prior owners said it had flooded once before in their 15 years here, but I figured that was almost impossible as the house is up a hill and the yard slopes pretty good…down to our new lake!
But my fears were realized when sure enough the carpet in the family room was wet…..very wet. And I had already checked the weather. Starting to vacuum that up would have been like bailing the Titanic, so I went back to bed.
So after getting Ben to the sitter (around detours, flooded roads, and energency vehicles) I came back home to vacuum water. We have a carpet cleaner and I had emptied probably over 20 buckets and the carpet was still wet. So I pulled it up from the side. The pad was ruined, and since it was now close to when I needed to leave for lacrosse practice, I just left the carpet pulled over.
Amanda and I decided on the phone that I would at least get all the padding out and maybe, or maybe not, reinstall the carpet after drying it….it would depend upon the floor underneath that we expected to be concrete. But when I showed her what I had done and pulled up some of the wet pad, which I had yet to do, underneath was tile that was not only very nice, but that match the adjacent room with the bar. We just kind of laughed, because the odds of it being that floor all underneath the carpet and pad and not damaged were slim…..life just never works that way.
That is….until tonight. Scotty and I cut and pulled up wet carpet and pad and uncovered a very real treasure. Sure, the carpet was great, but this floor really got us fired up, particularly him because he plays music down there all the time. It had character before, but this just added to it. And although we still have a long way to go before being done with this project, it was a real blessing to have it go this way. Scotty and I are both tired, but it is worth it, and the day is saved.
Moses may have parted the water and shown the people dry ground. We just hauled our water out in pieces……and anyone walking through here can walk through now on some pretty sweet tile!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

On being in THE game…..

I talked with Stephanie this evening because she had a game, and I am happy to report that she has seen quite a bit of playing time now as a freshman on one of the best teams in the country. It warmed my heart to hear her so happy, and I am glad to know she is seeing some fruits of the hard work she has put in over these last few years. It made my day.

It is hard for me though. I have hardly ever missed her playing and now some 5 hours away, I will miss the lions share and more of her games. Scotty is playing too, but as the women’s coach I do miss a lot of his games as I am coaching my own team. Of course Scott is now a monster who towers over me, so I will leave it to his coaches, Coach Mac and Coach Burrow, to ride him hard….and they do!
But tonight the six inches of snow we had on Friday are all but gone and it is raining and thundering (Ben is now in our bed with a real reason) and tomorrow will be a practice on a muddy but snow-free field. The next few months we will live, eat, and breathe lacrosse. But I am glad the season is here. It distracts me from the fact that I am a life-long Cubs fan.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Good DNA….sort of……

I am writing this in the midst of the current construction zone which is also currently called my office. I am just two short days away from painting my closet, and then three away from it all being put back together. And quite honestly I am very excited.

Of course it really (obviously) doesn’t take me much to get excited. I had heard a few days ago that the Cubs were going to be making a trade for Bob Feller, who as I remember died last year from old age, and I thought…..”wow, the Cubs are finally looking at a guy who could make a difference for them.” But I need to, and am working on, getting more of a life. For beyond my job and lacrosse, I appear to be pretty out of touch.
Case in point….my favorite show is still “Columbo,” yet it hasn’t been on in years. I do not watch sitcoms, and really hardly even watch TV. I do not participate in “guys’ nights out,” and prefer walking Viper around the neighborhood to anything exciting and modern. I do have fantasies, but most of them revolve around a lush green lawn and getting to use my new tractor. Call me a romantic, I know. I am a real catch.
But at least my offspring are a bit normal, though sometimes a bit twisted. As an example, tonight’s picture is of Ben, who swore he to me he was not Luigi, but just Ben. Most of the time however, he is a Transformer. And I am not quite sure what the other two are other than smarter than me….but I have set the bar low.
So tonight I will hit the bed and ponder why in the world my wife ever married me….something I consider only occasionally, but am sure she ponders every night. But why should I let it bother me? After all, I didn’t marry into this genetic pool…….I just enjoy the benefits.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+