All posts by Fr Tom Tirman

Notes on a Sunday…….

It has been an odd day, one upon which I only celebrated at one service, but I was not responsible for doing the sermon. It seemed very weird to me, but I seemed to survive it nonetheless.

If the truth be known, although I used to hate working on my sermons, I kind of enjoy it now. Perhaps it is the loss of brain cells, I do not know. What I can say is that I have never bought colleagues who spout about what a privilege it is. It is really hard work, and the idea that we talk about our faith is not something just reserved for us “pros.” It is the responsibility of the entire Church.
Of course there lies the problem. People count on their pastors to do the talking and what we get in all of that is pretty inefficient and ineffective results. Sure some pastors seem to have the kind of charisma that seems to get people to follow them more than the Pied Piper with rats, or St. Patrick with snakes (or Kim Kardashian with people that need more to do). But in the end it often seems to be that the people are following a person, and that person is the pastor, rather than who the pastor should be following. (That’s also part of the problem in that many pastors tend to be more full of themselves than Jesus).
But all this is to say, I missed it. Next Sunday is coming though, and I will do one sermon three different times. Still it will seem like a bit of slacking, but it will be good to get back in the saddle once again!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Hotter than……..

Well only THREE players of MANY came out to learn about lacrosse today, but a lot of them were out of town, and a lot more of them were pretty smart…it was hotter than all get out! BUT, we held it nonetheless. And in addition to a great lunch and some lacrosse, there was some TV in the cool cool basement and some relaxing fellowship.

Sure, I had envisioned a big event, but the event I envisioned will definitely take place next summer. I was just happy to see some of the girls, to have some time with them, and most of all to not see any of them die of heat exhaustion. (I understand that most parents frown on that.)
But in all honesty, I am glad we are by this, and my hope and prayer is that it will not be as hot next summer when we are out on the high school field. I cannot even imagine that it could be, as it was approximately 200 degrees outside today.
SO as I understand it, the heat will only be here about another 12 hours. Who’d have ever thought I would be missing all the rain, or even the ice of brutal winter we suffered. But hopefully this next week will make the 80’s and 90’s seem wonderful! We will see. I am just glad I have no more potential heat-problem events scheduled.
Oh yeah, I have church tomorrow….but I have to confess…..it is air conditioned there!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

A gathering of lions……

This afternoon two more of the girls from Lindenwood (the Lindenwood Lions) came the house for the weekend…..Lindsay, who plays with Steph on the lacrosse team, and Mel a dorm mate of them all. It is GREAT to have them all here, and of course Ben is in what we would declare as “Hog Heaven,” if there is really such a thing.

Lindsay is here because she was scheduled to be one of the featured instructors of a clinic that we were putting on for the entire city of Noblesville, but the whole thing got screwed up in getting off the ground. We will still hold a get together at the house tomorrow if anyone shows up, but sadly it will not be the big event on the high school field we planned.
BUT, the cool part is to get to be around some pretty great gals who I enjoy very much. I am sure they find me a total bore, old, and very out of touch. But what do I care? These are great kids and my daughter’s close friends. I am honored to have them over.
But for now I will call it a day. It is still hotter than all get out and I just am hoping for a cooler day for our gathering tomorrow.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Where does it go…….?

Some days just sort of start and end without me hardly even noticing, and sadly today is one such day. I did get a lot accomplished, but to be honest, I am not too sure when or how. I suppose I shouldn’t worry about it, for as far as days go, things could have gone far worse.

I will say that I have hijacked this picture for tonight from my daughter. Scott and Ben have a “suite” that they share (two bedrooms separated by a Jack and Jill bathroom), but they keep both their beds in one and a TV and toys in another. AND of the toys, often things are in sets. For instance there are TWO light sabers, because you cannot fight each other with just one. And as you can see, there are costumes as well. So last night Ben was Mario (not my favorite Mario….mine is Mario Andretti) and Scotty was Luigi. They are a couple of goons when they get into stuff, but since Cassie is an actress, it seemed a fitting tribute for her birthday (plus, she lives here by choice, so it is technically her fault).
But as for me, I am glad that the day is over. It is really my preference to be more in tune with them, so perhaps tomorrow will be a better day……at least it’s another chance!
Hope you have had a stellar day and are keeping cool!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Happy Birthday Cassie!

Today has been a great day! Today has been Cassie’s birthday, and we celebrated with a dinner tonight at Magginano’s Little Italy. It was a great time with an evening ending (at least for me) bit of ice cream cake and the giving of a few gifts.

Of course THEY are all downstairs playing Jenga. And of course I am upstairs typing away. I no longer have the patience to play a game like that, PLUS when the thing crashes down I just hate the noise. Yes, I am saying Jenga is a young person’s game I guess. I clearly need to get on my Bermuda shorts and hit the shuffleboard courts with my cronies.
But the day started with Ben and I heading to Cindy’s house for him to stay the day. What I didn’t get was his attire coming out the door. He was in a winter lacrosse hat, with a blankie, and a lunchbox. I was really not sure what to think other than I may want to have his DNA checked.
But all in all it has been a blast. Everyone is home and I am ready for bed. Ben will go quite soon as well. As for the Jenga junkies, I do not know. I am just thankful for a pretty good day!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Heat wave……..

Although I want to complain about the heat (really the excessive humidity) I will not because I remember the 6 inches of ice on my driveway not too many month ago. My industrial strength moose-sized snow blower could not even make a dent in it, and to be honest it seems a lot more appropriate to be sweaty out on the driveway now than it did then.

But just like then, the weather makes me worry. There are tons of people out there now without air conditioning, and some with it do not have the resources to be able to pay to keep it on. AND IT IS ON A LOT LATELY. Hopefully this heat wave will let up in a bot and things will cool down. I however know that this has been a real wish of mine just about every July I have been alive and AUGUST is on its way. Even the devil would be uncomfortable in this kind of heat.
But as for me, I am getting by. I take the heat as if it is my own personal sauna that I apparently share with everyone (and I am not in a towel out walking around in). It seems to work, but unlike a regular sauna, dehydration is always a risk. Water water water is the name of the game!
So off to bed in a cool room thinking about the heat tomorrow! Even the camels get hot I am sure. But for tonight, I am glad to be out of it…..I hope you are too! Stay cool!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Almost disaster…….

Okay, I know there is a heat advisory out for this area, but it did not stop Viper and I from taking a walk together tonight. My intention was to go about 4 miles, but the heat was getting to the boy and I thought it best to cut things short. I figured I might not be too popular if I killed the family dog.

But fortunately we got home in time. I got him upstairs and watered, and he is now downstairs snoozing on the tile floor with the kids as they watch “Lost.” Of course had we not gone out at all, Viper would have been snoozing downstairs on the tile floor with the kids as they watched “Lost.” He loves to walk, but he loves to sleep more. The life he lives cracks me up. If I could only be him!
So we have been out exercising and did our good work for the day. We will be at it again tomorrow too. This Biggest Loser thing does loom, and I do intend to be a lot lighter by August 22nd. Tonight has helped, but I do have a long way to go!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

On blogs, theology, headlocks, and blessings……

I read all sorts of things, and at times when I think about this blog I wish that I was writing some sort of deep theological tome or insightful observation from life that would be a bit more blog-worthy in the sea of such insightfulness that we now know as the “blogusphere.”

And of course a few years back, that was exactly the intention of this blog. It started at the time when I had decided to retire from the Episcopal Church, and was going to be a forum of sorts on theology, both good and bad, that no doubt would have been read by about three people (if you counted me). But really, there are plenty of those out there, not just on theology, but politics, and they often seem to be written by writers with a lot to say, but even more of which to let go. And the very fact that they cannot leads me to that I should be very thankful for the fact that I have been able to move on from where I was.
Please do not misunderstand me. I think there IS good theology, and I KNOW I have it. But at some point we need to stop talking about it and battling about it and then just live it. People are going to go where they feel regardless. And although you can witness to them about what it is you believe, head-locking them is really (in my mind at least) not effective Evangelism.
So if there is no objection, or even if there is, I intend to still just use my time here as post-stroke therapy and to just write about what I feel like writing about. It may be deep, or it may not be. I really don’t care. I am just thankful that you my dear friends walk with me on my journey. And I hope and I pray that your lives will be every bit as blessed as mine.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Excuse me??????????

I got home and Ben was all about talking to me……he is still hanging in my office asking a thousand questions. When you are 4 you miss things when they are out of your sight, and I have been gone for over 2 full days. He is no playing spaceships, but has played just about everything and asked me everything since I got home.

The best part was when he was playing with his “Pirates of the Caribbean” Legos that Scotty bought him for his birthday. The things are so very small that I cannot make them out, but the first thing he handed me was apparently Captain Jack’s compass. He asked, “Dad, is this Captain Jack’s compass?” And I replied, “I do not know Ben, I cannot see it. It is very small.” To which he replied, “it’s a compass, is it open?” I said, “I don’t know.” He said, “yes it is.” I said, “okay.”
A few minutes later he asked, “Are these Davey Jones’ testicles?” To which I said, “excuse me?” And he repeated himself quite clearly. So I said, “what do you mean?” And he said, “Are these Davey Jones’ testicles? You know can he see out of them?” To which I THOUGHT, “Oh my I hope not!” But then I got it……he had not clue……he was meaning TENTACLES. (see the picture)…….so I was relieved.
Of course I live with his older brother and sister whom I will QUIZ about this very story because it is a heck of a mispronunciation……but I am not anticipating any confession.
For now I will just laugh at the story and confess how it made my day. Having kids is always an adventure, and today upon my return I got one of those for sure!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless.
Tommy+

On meeting Elvis…….at Breyerfest 2011…..

I have been in Lexington today and will be most of tomorrow as well, and it has been a pretty productive time. I am staying in a hotel on the north side of town with approximately 10,000 little girls and their moms, along with about 1,000,000,000 plastic horses. Apparently I booked a room during the annual Breyerfest celebration in Lexington…..I just looked it up www.breyerhorses.com/blog/2011/01/28/breyerfest2011/

But despite the fact that I didn’t fit in, it was really kind of cool. It was really neat seeing tons of little girls and their moms enjoying everything together. All their rooms seemed to be opened up to show off and even sell some of their collections, and I was actually amazed at how very into it they all seemed to be, yet it was something I had never heard of.
But what REALLY amazed me was walking down the hall and hearing a familiar voice…..ELVIS. I headed toward it, convinced they had some sort of impersonator there, but what I found instead was a hotel lounge, karaoke, and a guy who not only sounded a heck of a lot LIKE Elvis, but who LOOKED like him too (he was even in a jumpsuit)…AND HE WAS THE RIGHT AGE AS WELL! SO I did what any other red blooded American would…..I went in and snapped this picture.
As you can see like any picture taken of Elvis, it turned out just like the the ones of Bigfoot and the Loch Ness Monster.
Oh well……I am heading to bed.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+