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IN…….

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All moved in and my office is unpacked. It was a royal disaster trying to get ready for the morning, but I can happily say that the bulletins are printed as are the readings. I will not be able to get up in the morning and just pop over, but the coffee is set for 5:30 and I should be out of here in about an hour to an hour and a half.

But it will not really matter, because for all the hard work I will be going tomorrow I will be returning to even more. I have my upcoming week scheduled around all the unpacking and organizing, but will still be working a full schedule.
One thing I have decided I want to share with you right now. I have downsized a lot in my office, and I made a decision tonight. Over the course of my ministry my office has always displayed two things, one, all the degrees I have earned, awards I have won, and things like ordination certificates and such, and two, pictures of my family.
In my downsizing I have decided to put all the history in a box in the basement in lieu of my family, and I am not just comfortable with that, but committed to it. It reminded me of a story that I laughed about tonight when I remembered it. I was finalist to be a Cathedral Dean a few years ago and someone on the search committee asked me what my greatest accomplishment was…..and without missing a beat I said my children. Clearly even today I would answer the same.
So my office is done, but waiting for us to find all the pictures. Sooner or later they will show up, but for now all those shelves (and there are many) will remain empty. Fortunately for me they are around me all the time!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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Busta move……

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Moving day, and though I was not lifting all the heavy furniture, somehow it has not been any less stressful. The movers were great guys, but it took two trips, and for me, the harder work now begins…..like finding everything.

First and foremost, my concern is to find the cat, who made the trip over with me and then promptly disappeared. A first you could hear her “transponder,” because she howled everywhere she went. But soon those howls faded and we have not seen her since. I KNOW she is in here, I just do not know where. I am just thankful I am not looking for one of the kids.
But the good news is that we are in and at least have that behind us. The big job tomorrow will be to get the office finished. I still am responsible for having all the bulletins over at St. Patrick’s today (3 miles from my old house and about 30 from here), but it should be no problem……my office is stacked with boxes and such only about waist high……it could be worse.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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Thanksgiving…….

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Today I look around and see that I have so much to be thankful for. God has blessed me, as He has all of us, with many blessings on every side.

We spent the lion’s share of the day preparing for tomorrow’s move. TWO trips out to the new house, and a trip to my dad’s for a wonderful meal in between. SO…….this means I am enjoying the blessing of a body too old to move (I am sore) AND I am over the top with food. Now I know why all those old guys I used to work around in Florida pulled their pants up to just below their chests…..it’s thinner there! But Amanda is probably not ready for that yet, (or the Bermuda shorts with black socks) so I will just have to live with it.
But the good news is that the movers will be here in about 8 more hours and it will “officially” begin. We are very thankful for that, and are buy the home from good friends who seem to feel just as good about us being there as we do moving there. We are heading there early too. We will not close till Tuesday, but they allowed us to move while Amanda was off work. They are wonderful, and it has been a great blessing.
So everyone but Stephanie (who is out with friends) is asleep. I will finish packing before bed. We have already done a lot of work, but the day is not lost on me. I am thankful to God for all I have, and with Him by my side………..I hope to be wearing those Bermuda shorts by the end of the year!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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The Prodigal, sort of…..

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Tonight I took a break from packing and drove into Indianapolis and picked up Stephanie from one of her teammates who has relatives here she was coming to visit for Thanksgiving. It is always great to see her, and now we have FOUR DRIVERS to shuttle stuff between houses!

And I suppose “prodigal” is not all that accurate for her. She really is not reckless with her spending and she is a pretty good student…..it was just the only biblical example of someone returning that is coming to my exhausted little mind. What has brought us both a lot of joy has not just been her return, but she and her brothers hanging out. They all seem to be having a great time, as opposed to when my siblings used to hang out…. a grate time.
But I will have to celebrate all this joy in my dreams because I am just too old and tired to go any further. No worries though…..tomorrow is just Thanksgiving, and we are scheduled ALL DAY in addition to a lot more packing to do. I suppose I can rest sometime in 2011.
Anyway, it is off to bed for me. Oh who am I kidding??? I typed this from bed.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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Weird things…….

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Some things just feel weird. Like today, the phone was connected in the new house. Yep, weird……I will be getting a new phone number after all these years. And tomorrow, Stephanie comes home from college for Thanksgiving break. It also feels weird….my daughter coming home for a “visit.”

But what can I do? Life happens, and we are all around for the ride. In my younger years I suppose I would be quite a bit more philosophical about the changes in my life (those are just to, but there are many) but I find now that pondering about things often just puts you behind. So this is to say, I learn a new number and live with it. AND, I just ought to enjoy Stephanie being home before things like a husband and grandchildren enter the picture and I wonder how it ever happened.
I really do miss the wisdom of my grandpa who taught me to take in each day and enjoy it. I suppose I ought to remember that at this point in my life.
Unfortunately for me, my lack of memory is another one of those weird changes.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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The countdown…..

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If anyone has any use for a middle-aged, forgetful, husband with a good heart, let me know. I am available to move out of here until the move is done. Yes some things are easier as married couples when you do not do them together…..home improvement project are one, and moving is another.

Of sure, I both admit and warn couples I am going to be marrying of this very truth during premarital counseling, but alas, some do not listen. And of course, some like me in our premarital think we can just set that truth aside and figure it out on our own, as if it doesn’t apply. So I suppose it’s a good thing I no longer recommend or use “Billy Bank’s Online Premarital Made Easy” course. Sometimes you just have to do the hard work.
But we will survive all of it, of that I am certain. There’s just a lot of stress in moving. But a life without stress probably means we are no longer breathing, so I think I will just deal with the stress.
The move is coming and soon things will be back to normal. And after that, this will all be looked on as just a big adventure.
Personally, I cannot wait for that perspective!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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The UN-Packer….

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It’s funny how things often work out. I had originally intended to take the week off in order to move, and then yesterday my wife reminded me that Ben was not going to daycare this week…..meaning he would be hanging with me. So I am off, but Ben is now officially working for my moving crew.

That’s not a problem though, particularly since he was already a part. He totally stinks at putting things INTO a box, but he’s pretty darn good about taking things out. Unfortunately, we are supposed to be all about packing right now and not unpacking.
We are buying this home from some parishioners who are also good friends. Our closing is yet to be scheduled, but it hopefully will take place in this next week. They have been gracious enough to allow us to move a few of the loose things over that are too difficult for us to pack. We moved a lot of the garage stuff, workshop stuff, and tomorrow kitchen stuff. It sure makes it a lot less stressful.
What I can say is that I am looking forward to next Friday night, when all the stuff will be there and I will be typing this blog from our new home. I hope to God that the computer works at that point. I will miss this back porch, but in the end, it will be a blessing to us all.
Off to bed!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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Doing the right things…….

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I will be heading to St. Matthew’s in Nashville in the morning to substitute for Bishop Loomis who was scheduled to preach and celebrate there. He also was to lead a mini-retreat today there, but unfortunately he had to stay in Ohio. His daughter Bennett, who is 27 weeks pregnant, was taken to the hospital after her water broke. Our Bishop, Doc, made the good decision…..he chose to stay there with his family.

Now of course most of us might say, “why sure he did, who wouldn’t?” But the answer is pretty clear to me, because I have seen a lifetime of clergy who choose others before their very own families. What I want to say is that I have the incredible privilege to work for a Bishop, and among clergy, who model the right things.
In fact, I try to model the same thing. Family is so important, and as clergy, we could not do what we do without them.
Please pray for Bennett, her baby, her parents and their family. It’s the right thing to do, among the witness of another who has done the right thing.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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Stress relief…..

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I think I might buy myself a decompression chamber. I am not sure whether you can get one on Amazon, but I am pretty sure they probably have them on EBay. Of course I am not sure if they alleviate stress anyway, but at this point I am about ready to try anything.

The big issue for me right now is to just get to the closing. This of course require everyone to be on the same page, and sadly, the ONLY part that is lagging behind is lagging on our side of the transaction. It is both frustrating and embarrassing, and something that makes me feel pretty powerless in all of this. One of my friends has said to just put it in God’s Hands, but as I have always replied (and did today) my life seems a lot less stressful when the Lord Himself operates on my schedule. He never seems to want to do that, so for now I am just going to have to deal with the stress.
The good news is that beyond this post all I am waiting for is to take the acid, I mean the medicine, that I have been ingesting for the lion’s share of the week for the infection I had. It has been an “icky” week, and although the stress will carry into next week (we intend to move the day after Thanksgiving) at least there is victory in the fact that I have survived this week.
As a distraction for myself, I have been reading Peter Sellers’ quotes, especially since my complete set of Pink Panther movies are packed. But at least I can still laugh at it all. In time all this will be but a memory, which my mind I will probably forget anyhow. So why should I worry? There are plenty of people with more pressing problems than me. Perhaps I should just pray for them…that I will.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+
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Boiling over……

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Yep, I am clearly over the top, and I wish there some peace in sight, but today it just wasn’t happening.

If you read this often, you will know that we are in the process of buying a house and the details of just ONE PART of it are delaying things. We are both working, raising kids, and doing other things…..plus Amanda it transitioning jobs. SO…..it is a lot on our plate. AND, for me it is just a bit too much.
So tonight I have called it a day. I have poured a vodka tonic, taken a deep breath, and am praying for a better day when the sun rises tomorrow. After all, when things boil over, the best thing you can do is to turn down the heat.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless.
Tommy+