All posts by Fr Tom Tirman

Hanging with Cowboy Grandpa…….

Amanda’s dad is here from Kansas, a victim of my wife buying a couple of pieces of furniture and then sweet talking him into bringing them out to her. He and his friend Gary drove the unbelievably long journey yesterday, because she is persuasive and persistent when she wants something. It reminded me of how she begged for months before getting me to propose, but I suppose when something is that worth it, she has to do what she has to do…but I digress.

The good part is that Ben gets to see his grandpa, and to differentiate between her dad and my dad, he calls her dad “Cowboy Grandpa,” which is because he is indeed a real full-fledged cowboy. Of course tonight in all the confusion, I forgot to mention to him that Roy Rogers was actually friends with the people who owned this house some years ago and has stayed here a few times. And I would wake him up to share that information, but who wants to risk being hog-tied to share something can wait until morning?
But Ben is having fun, and so is Cowboy Grandpa. When Amanda and Ben were out in Kansas a few weeks back, I thought to visit, but to apparently by furniture and arrange delivery, it was then that Ben started using the name “Cowboy Grandpa.” My dad, who Ben has always just called Grandpa, Ben is now calling “Hospital Grandpa,” since Ben was with him a few times up at St. Vincent’s when he had surgery over the summer. I am sure that my dad will fix that soon with something like “Zoo Grandpa” (not intended to reflect anything about my brother or sister) or “Brooklyn Grandpa,” or even just “Grandpa” like it has been.
But for now Ben will wear out his Cowboy Grandpa and then they will be on there way home. Of course first we will probably need to get some more furniture. But who’s to complain? Not me…….I’d rather not be hog-tied and set outside. It’s just too cold.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Nope, not crazy……

I normally am on top of things, but tonight I feel a bit frustrated. I was supposed to be hosting a conference call this evening with my clergy, and not only did I forget, but only one of them remembered and called me about it. I was not goofing off when I got his call, but painting. It was embarrassing. I really should have remembered.

PLUS…..our website still has the information up about our December 20th retreat with our Bishop, a retreat that we postponed due to an emergency in his family. I ALSO want to put up information about a missionary we want to get the word out on, but the computer that has Microsoft Frontpage on it has magically disappeared or is somewhere in a box.
Oh, there IS good news. Earlier today I DID FIND the power cord for the laptop that networks the printer. So printing will be less of an issue very soon, but it sure would be nice to know where our stuff is……hopefully soon.
Of course at least we know where the kids are, and that seems to be a blessing (at least most of the time), but I am still focusing on the missing laptop.
So for now I will go and take an additional sweep of some target areas. Yep, I have searched them before too. They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. No worries……I have had a stroke. I will just forget I searched there about five minutes later. No insanity here.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Happy Birthday Stephanie…..

Yes, my daughter turned 19 today, and although I know she is away at college, I do feel this incredible sense of guilt in that it is the first birthday of hers that I have not been with her to celebrate. We did send her a gift, and Amanda did arrange a sneaky surprise dinner for her and her friends, which I originally spelled “fiends,” (too funny huh?) thanks to her friend Lindsey (THANKS LINDSEY!). But of course I would have rather been there myself.

Of course I will be able to take her out for dinner and cake in just a few days, since she comes home for Christmas break on the 10th. What matters I suppose is that she has had a blast on her birthday, and at 19, thinking back, I would imagine I was not on that “first choice” guest list anyhow, so I will not worry about it at all. I am just happy for her.
So Happy Birthday Stephanie! We are proud of you and are looking forward to seeing you this weekend!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

There are snakes on that train!

I have been waiting to write about this, particularly since it makes me laugh every time I think about it. I hope it will you too.

On Thursday night, Ben was snaking (a word where I come from meaning to get one’s way through devious means, even when you are 3 and it is obvious) his way into our bed for the night. I finally gave in, grabbed him, and lifted him up between Amanda and me. I then proceeded to remove his slippers, and that’s when it happened……he threw a FIT. So as he was crying and trying to explain (to a guy who qualifies for hearing aids yet doesn’t own a pair) my wife finally explained for him. Apparently he needs to sleep with his slippers on, because he wants to be ready when the Polar Express comes to pick him up. Now I apparently need to watch the movie all the way through rather than bits and pieces.
It was cute, but to make matters worse on the next morning when I was leaving for Akron, Ben woke up adamant that it was Christmas morning. He is his mom’s son, and there is no arguing with him when he thinks he is right, so I just changed the subject. But this is clearly going to be a long month.
But tonight I am home, I got this picture of him in his Polar-ready attire, and although I am still up working, I do believe when I get to my bed I will find that he has already snaked his way in. He does it with everyone…..just ask his brother. But that’s what you get with snakes.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

No picture, lousy post……

I do not mind traveling, but once and awhile the Internet where I stay doesn’t allow me to post from my computer. If I were just 13 I could figure it out, but I am really at my best with a abacus, a rock, and a stick.

Too bad too, I knew exactly what I would write, so maybe I will post about it tomorrow when I get home. The weather looks a bit dicey, so keep me in your prayers. I need to get home to help shovel snow!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Burning the candle…….

Holy smokes I am tired. I am burning the candle on both ends trying to get this house unpacked and the other ready to rent. I am home now, but my car is filled with stuff from the old house, and I will make one more trip there in the morning before heading out to Akron, Ohio for an Installation Service of Father Mike Kraynak as Rector of St. Luke’s in Akron. It is a long trip, though just an overnight, but it will be worth it.

So today there were office calls all morning, two trips and work at the old house with calls on the drives, a lacrosse game, and then dinner with family. My favorite part of course was the dinner. It’s not that coaching the girls is not a blast, because it always is, but it is always fun to have the boys together with my dad. The picture is kind of fuzzy, but it was a fun time.
But now I am too tired to pac (not the deceased rapper), too tired to do laundry, and even too tired to do all the stuff I normally do when I get home…..yep, more tired than an Indy car on a hot day……and even more tired than Lili Von Shtupp (that’s a hard one….think Mongo).
So it is off to bed I go. Tomorrow will hopefully be a more energetic day!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

The Promise……

This morning Ben had a total meltdown. Of course his world has been turned upside down, and his schedule has been majorly disrupted, but it certainly didn’t make things any easier……on any of us.

But on the way to the sitter he and I had a conversation. I thought it would be an exciting one for him, but apparently it was not. Our “tractor” (a decent sized garden tractor) was being delivered this morning (along with our snow blower) and he had been waiting on it for weeks. Of course, mid-meltdown his interest was to be obstinate and not compliant or conversational. The new tractor is actually a Husqvarna, which is a kind of dark orange color, and Ben knows that so on the ride he talked about how he wanted a “green” tractor and nothing else. And though he was promised that he could sit on my lap and drive the orange one, he was insistent that is was green or nothing.
When I picked him up at the end of the day however, he apparently had a change of heart. He asked me if we were going home to ride HIS ORANGE TRACTOR……..and that we did. We took a full lap around the yard and he couldn’t have been happier.
In all honesty, so was I.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless.
Tommy+

Reaching the finish line…….

I suppose it all depends upon your perspective…..we made it to the finish line in terms of getting to the closing, but in a real sense it is but a starting line for a new chapter in our lives. Though intense in getting there (the down payment was wired about an hour before we needed to close) everything went very well. We not only signed all the papers with the Woodruffs, but we went out for a nice dinner and drinks afterwards with them as well. It was a real honor…..a splendid day.

And on a personal note, Amanda and I are celebrating tonight in a very typical Tirman fashion…..I am at home with the dog and she is at a lacrosse meeting. But when she gets home I will trick her into letting me carry her over the threshold, even though I threw out my back earlier today. It will be worth the pain. AND perhaps she will be sympathetic to me as I milk this injury for all I am worth. ($5.25)
So I will bid you all adieu, because I am really pretty darn tired…..especially of a-doin!
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Time flies when you are doing anything but closing tomorrow……

I cannot tell you how excited we are about tomorrow. At 3pm we will finally close on our home. As I have said before, we are buying it from friends who are delighted that we will be living here, and the whole thing has special meaning for me, and I believe for us all.

I will say that most of the high waves we have been dealing with have now all become manageable. I was worried after renting a U-Haul to pack my mom’s stuff and move it, when the bank called shortly after I finished to say the underwriter wanted to know a few more things. It required me to drop everything and head back 30 miles to my laptop and printer, because even in these days of technology we are still dependent upon the FAX. But in just a few hours all was settled. My stress now is about how much to wire to a 3pm closing…..the amount I will find out in the morning. They know how to cut everything to the wire.
But the good news is that by tomorrow at dinner we will own the house, and our friends will finally not own two homes…..we will! I do hope they celebrate with a big bottle of wine and a nice dinner. We will probably have some Taco Bell and unpack a few more boxes…..but it will be home, and it is a blessing to us all.
Anyway, tomorrow will come sooner if I go to bed……it’s certainly not scientific (because it is wrong) but deep down I believe it. So to bed I go.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+

Trouble…….

It has been a busy, and at times, horrifying day. After two services this morning, one in Westfield and another in Anderson, I left to do some visits, one of which just happened to be with my mom who also made a move on Friday between a nursing home in Noblesville to a nursing home here in Anderson.

Actually, I was a bit surprised they wanted to move her on the same day that we were moving, and what kept going through my mind was that it was just too good to be true. Of course adages such as that come back to haunt you, and today was such a day for me. I came into the new nursing home to the familiar little old lady chanting “help me, help me,” but this time it was my mom.
At east she was there, but I have to say that beyond that, not a lot was right. They moved her on time, but with nothing but the clothes she was wearing (that was 2 days ago) and they also didn’t bring her cigarettes, and she has smoked since she was 12, and mostly heavily. So the woman I ran into was not just an Alzheimer’s patient, but now suffering nicotine withdrawal (only since Friday), in someone else’s clothes, and no one even called me.
In the middle of all the ranting and raving coming from her, I asked her what she smoked. She told me and I ran out to get them right away. As I got to the store and said “Misty 120’s” the clerk asked “what kind?” I asked, “how many kinds are there?” “Two.” “I’LL TAKE BOTH!”
The good news is that 2pm my mom at least HAD her cigarettes and at 4pm had her first one since Friday. When I asked her what I could do for her she said “Shoot me.” It’s sounds disturbing, but it was a glimpse of my mom at her old brain’s best…..she was always pretty sharp witted. BUT, after that visits and a trip to Christ the King in Kokomo and St. Patrick’s in Westfield, I made my way to the old nursing home and grabbed all her clothes and cigarettes. And I then promptly delivered them to her.
I really do not know what my mom would remember about today’s conversation or the move. I just know there are a few things she should be able to enjoy. She still smokes, and is a diabetic that cheats at every chance, but that is about all she’s got. Her sharp mind is often absent, but she still reads about a book a day. She is never sure if I am married (Amanda often wishes I were not) and she thinks Ben is still a baby much of the time. But she still deserves her dignity and I hope I was able to recover a bit of it for her tonight. I will never know, but as my grandma (her mom) always says, “regardless of the circumstances, YOU can always do the right thing.
Goodnight my friends and God Bless!
Tommy+